How to have a bhumi.

PRACTICE TANTRA

Tantra is an ancient spiritual science that somehow got confused with a sexual practice in the West. 

Tantra isn’t a sex trick. Sex can be part of it, but tantra is really about waking up inside your everyday life. The word means weaving. It weaves the sacred and the messy, the joyful and the painful, the body and the mind into one path. Nothing is excluded. Your life as it is becomes the practice.

Real tantra means meeting life directly. Feeling fear and moving anyway. Honoring your boundaries, desires, and choices. The practice happens in ordinary moments, not retreats, monasteries, or caves. When awareness and lived experience come together, something real wakes up and starts guiding how you live.

For several months, I used what was happening in my life, along with what I saw unfolding in tarot and astrology, as guidance for how to become the best version of myself. Nothing was abstract. Everything was applied. Every moment was a chance to practice awareness, courage, and integrity in real time.

These were the rules I lived by:

1. Be fearless. Step forward even when fear whispers from the corners. Fear is not a stop sign. It’s a compass made of electricity. 

2. Choose kindness, but never at the cost of your boundaries. 

3. Ask the uncomfortable questions.

4. Spend time with people who lift you up. Your energy is sacred. Choose relationships that water you. 

5. Stop being afraid of getting what you want. Desire is natural. Welcome it with awareness and integrity. 

6. Notice the cycles of your life that feel safe but keep you small. Pattern awareness is liberation. 

7. Zoom out. See impermanence. Notice how every choice sends ripples. 

8. Appreciate where you are. Gratitude grounds you without dimming your fire. 

9. Help other people, especially when you feel lost. Generosity born from awareness becomes medicine for both. 

10. Choose yourself. Self-honor is the soil everything else grows from. 

11. Believe people when they show you who they are. Awareness protects your heart. 

12. Don’t shrink. Your divinity does not negotiate. 

13. Sit with your thoughts and then dance with them. Observe, feel, and respond creatively. This is meditation in motion. 

14. Ditch scarcity. Life is endlessly creative. 

15. Get uncomfortable. Growth lives just beyond the edge of ease. 

16. Honor presence. Honor wonder. Honor each other. When someone shares their spark with you, listen. Presence is love in motion. 

17. Treat people gently. Everyone carries a hidden child who still needs warmth. 

18. Stay connected to your body. Feel your breath. Your feet. The moment touching your senses. When things get hard, don’t disappear into your head. Slow breathing, warm water, fresh air, familiar smells. This is how the sacred shows up in real life. 

19. Learn to receive. Help. Praise. Pleasure. Tantra isn’t just giving energy. It’s allowing it to return. 

20. Rest when your spirit gets loud. Stillness is not quitting. It’s initiation. 

(The strange part is that some of this stops applying after a bhumi. You stop being the one doing the work and become the instrument. The divine plays you where you’re needed, how you’re needed. At first, it can feel disorienting. Like handing over the steering wheel to something you can’t fully see. Then, with time, the clarity arrives. Not obedience. Understanding.) 

ASTROLOGY AND TAROT AS TOOLS

Look around. Everyone and everything  is stuck in some way. Now the hard part... unless you've had a bhumi you're stuck in some ways as well. Even if you're exceptionally self aware, it is usually easier to see others knee deep in their mud. 

So reflect externally... someone you know is stuck in a loop so predictable you can mouth the script. Your friend who keeps adopting emotionally unavailable lovers like stray cats. Your uncle who has been “launching his business soon” since the Bush administration. Your coworker who reenacts the same family drama every Thanksgiving like it’s a Netflix renewal. Your cousin who avoids feelings by changing partners the way most people change socks. Your grandma who overshares trauma with the cashier because she never learned where her emotional doorway ends and someone else begins. Your aunt who has had the same damn haircut and clothes for 40 years. 

Now reflect internally... start with this: what are the voices in your head saying? What makes you angry? What makes you afraid? What makes you avoid? Then start digging around in your own mud. 

These aren’t random disasters. They’re karmic curricula. Cosmic pop quizzes disguised as everyday nonsense. The universe loves to hand you the same lesson wrapped in hotter packaging until you finally go, I’m done. 

To break a loop, you need tools. Real ones. Astrology and tarot are two of the sharpest.

But if you’re feeling fearless, here’s the advanced level. Go ask the five people closest to you and yes, your biggest enemy what your patterns are. If they’re honest, they’ll tell you exactly where you repeat yourself. That’s the raw data. Unfiltered. Uncomfortable. Gold. 

PLEASE BE KIND. No matter who asks or who answers, friend or foe, I hope honesty comes paired with kindness. Because truth without care is just another loop in disguise.

Astrology is the macro map. It shows the architecture of your life, the scaffolding of your soul, the long sweep of collective evolution. Astrology is the eagle’s view of Earth’s grand repeating symphony. It shows us what is going on with the collective... and the individual. 

Tarot is the micro lens. The close up. The daily pulse check. Tarot tells you what your hands, your heart, and your horny human decisions are doing inside that larger celestial blueprint.

Together, astrology, tarot and having those tough convesations decode the pattern fast. They reveal the energies you’re playing with before you even shuffle a deck or peek at the planets. They let you see the loop clearly. 

Once you see it, you get to break it. 

You get to choose something new.

You actively start becoming your best version!

My fingers are crossed for your journey. I hope you get to walk straight into a bhumi like a flaming, fearless, fully awake creature who finally remembers what she actually is.

How to Have a Bhumi

1. Accept that life moves in cycles. You’re in one. Everyone is.
2. Ask people what your patterns are. 
3. Start paying attention to weekly tarot readings. Look for ones based on your sun, moon and rising signs. You can Google “free natal chart.” You’ll need your birth date, birth place, and birth time.
4. Watch a solid weekly astrology forecast. Think cosmic weather, not dating advice.
5. Watch. Listen. Stay open. Do this for three months. I share readers and astrologers I like on Instagram and Facebook. As patterns start showing up, take chances when they appear. If it feels scary but right, lean in.
6. This is the key part. When you notice your real life matching the reading, make a different choice. Actually change something. Choose love instead of fear. Calm instead of reaction. Growth instead of drama.
7. That’s when fate might open the door. Yes, there are many ways to have a bhumi. This is just one I know how to explain.

And if the top of your head feels like it blew open and you have an intense, wordless conversation with the universe in a blurry field of light? Yeah. That was a bhumi.

Congrats. 🎉